Confidence matters in life. It’s the difference between living a life you’re excited about and settling for whatever comes along.
Confidence gives you the ability to take action, because you trust yourself and your capabilities.
With confidence you can negotiate a raise.
With confidence you can ask that person out.
With confidence you can start that business, that workout plan, or that new way of life.
When you base your self-worth on accomplishments, abilities or popularity alone, your confidence more closely resembles a stock ticker than a solid foundation. You’ll find your confidence is always in a state of flux according what’s going on in your life.
Because inevitably, the tide will turn. Life will throw you curveballs. Dryspells will happen.
If your confidence is based on external influences, it will be under constant threat of failure.
Here are 3 foundational beliefs that make your confidence rock solid:
ATTITUDE TRUMPS ABILITY
Natural ability is great, but without an attitude of perseverance to continually improve, eventually someone with less natural talent and more determination will overtake the person with natural ability.
In the gym the person with natural athletic ability may go for a run and leave, but someone whose dedicated himself to an ambitious regimine because they’re prone to obesity will be showing continual gains and improvements over time.
In the office, the person that makes their work look easy may quit the day at 5 on the dot, but someone who puts in as much effort as necessary to complete the project flawlessly even if they have to stay late or work weekends, will be the first up for that promotion.
Perseverance is mandatory for entrepreneurship. We don’t always have the answers. And sometimes we face agonizing situations that threaten our survival in the business world. That’s where perseverance kicks in and gives you the winning attitude to tackle even the biggest challenges.
With an attitude of perserverence, you know you’ll find a way. Even if in the beginning you might not know how to accomplish what’s required of you, you know you’re determined enough to figure it out.
That’s what creates a solid foundation of confidence.
YOU'RE MOST POWERFUL IN THE MOMENT
Being in the moment means you aren’t distracted. You aren’t thinking about yesterday’s embarrassment or the errands you’re going to run on the way home. No. You’re focused right where you are.
When you’re in the moment, you're relieved of stress. You let go of the things that are outside your control. You get out of your head and eliminate negative self-talk. You are simply you.
In this state, confidence is natural. Because when all the negativity that keeps you from feeling confident is suddenly gone, the only thing that remains is your innate personal power.
When you let go of distractions and allow yourself to discover your desires without judgement, you are freed to be your most powerful self. The more you practice these moments, the more comfortable you become with your own natural confidence.
AUTHENTICITY IS NON-NEGOTIABLE
You’ll never be comfortable living someone else’s values. When you know who you are and what you want, you’re able to maintain consistent character. You’re able to bring integrity to your projects and to your relationships.
We all know those people who are chameleons. Changing their personality, speech, and dress to fit in. It’s one thing to be charming and quite another to suppress your authentic self.
Radically self honesty is the only way to be truly authentic. This level of honesty allows you appraise your abilities, position, and values objectively and self-supportively.
When you can know, like, and respect yourself you eliminate the need for others to do the same. That’s self-confidence.
Authenticity gives you the confidence to set huge goals knowing you’ll respect yourself win or lose for having the integrity to go after what you want.
Confidence isn’t won. It’s a daily practice that requires consistent effort. Time, poor choices, and negative people have a way of chipping at even the strongest foundations of confidence.
If you want to live a life without limits, the best place to focus is your mindset. Build the foundations that get you the confidence to support your highest goals.
Which one of your goals could use an injection of confidence right now?
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